Tuesday, May 20, 2008

And so it grows...




I started planting 2 weeks ago and had to stop due to excessive rain. I finished putting everything in the ground today!! We have lettuce, spinach, cabbage, eggplant, zucchini, broccoli, basil, jalapenos, and parsley. In the pots I planted rosemary and dill. Hopefully those will thrive and I can bring them in at the end of the warm months so we can have some fresh herbs even in the winter.



The irises bloomed too. They are beautiful, and absolutely everywhere in the STL right now, in all colors of the rainbow.

Friday, May 16, 2008

Let the Gardening Begin!

I had grand plans to expand our garden this year. I was going to do raised beds, bring in soil and have many more square feet to add many more plants. But then Rob went and decided we needed a wedding so I don't have time for that anymore. Still, I am going to garden in the space I used last year and will try to keep a small log of that process. We've had 22 inches of rain this spring, 9 above normal and have set a new record for rainfall so things are running behind. I managed to loosen the soil and take out the old dead basil branches from last year, and then composted my soil a few weeks ago. There were earthworms galore and many of them were so fat they resembled small snakes!! I was SO excited, I hope this means my little garden is off to a great start. These are the photos before planting began:



The greenery in the back are irises, which of course have been there for years and have bloomed a beautiful lavender this week. I will be adding plants this weekend. So far, I'm putting in spinach, purple cabbage, jalapenos, broccoli, basil, yellow squash, and butternut squash. I hope to get some eggplant starters from the Market this weekend too.

I heart gardening.
What a geek.

Thursday, May 15, 2008

CA Legalizes Gay Marriage

Two states down, 48 to go.
I'm so happy for Californians, may your weddings be joyful and your marriages long.
This made me happy.

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

We're Trendy

Oh my god. We plan a wedding on the cheap, the economy declines and now EVERYONE is planning a wedding on the cheap.

The average cost of a wedding is apparently dipping by a whopping $700 from $28,704, compared with $28,732 in 2007.
Hahaha.
Hilarious.
But we're still below the curve. Quite a bit, in fact. We may be trendy but that is quite a bit more than we plan to (and CAN) spend.
Imagine how much potable water one can buy for $28K.
That almost makes me cry.

Thursday, May 08, 2008

14th Ward Obama Delegate

Oh, so this crazy thing happened and I'm somehow a small part of this historical election. On February 28, Missouri held its caucuses. I read this online, and never having been to a single ward or neighborhood association meeting since moving to my new 'hood 18 months ago, I thought what the heck? I'll go to the caucus.
I didn't understand the process fully, I STILL don't understand it but this was the Democratic Caucus for my ward. This meant that all the attendees got a chance to vote for their choice of Dem candidate by physically standing up for them and being counted. Edwards dropped out just before this, so at the meeting we could choose to caucus for either Hillary Clinton or Barack Obama. I suppose someone could have caucused for Edwards or anyone else or even "undecided" but no one did. We signed in to the meeting, said the pledge of allegiance, and then the Caucus Chair announced that Clinton supporters should go to one corner of the room and Obama folks to the other. The count was 12 for Clinton, 5 for Obama. This is surprising in some ways, given that Obama won my state and was heavily favored in my city, but not as surprising given that the demographic at the meeting appears superficially to be the types that Clinton attracts- white, working class, women.

From each caucus group, we had to elect one delegate and one alternate to represent our ward at the Congressional District meeting on March 17. We had to have one male and one female delegate, and one alternate of each gender also. The Obama group was all women, therefore we got to pick the 2 female spots and the Clinton crew got the 2 male spots. Four of the five of us were interested in being the delegate, so we went around our small circle and gave a short speech about why we wanted to be the delegate. By secret ballot, I was elected with two votes. TWO! Big support.

The Congressional District meeting was far different. Loud, crowded, chaotic and lubricated with beer. These meetings are all held in union halls and I suppose beer runs through these halls like the hallowed tradition of organized labor.
Lovely. I enjoy beer.

I had read up on the delegate process since being elected, but still understood minimally what was to happen. What I came to learn was that of that massive group of Obama supporters at the Congressional Meeting, we were electing 2 delegates to go to the NATIONAL convention in Denver. The big kahuna- oh, and two alternates as well. The Clinton supporters were also their to elect their delegates and the room was huge and unpartitioned, so as each group attempted to hear 1 minute speeches from our candidates, the other's group was doing the same thing. So confusing. Thank God for beer.

I did not run, as apparently there was paperwork that had to be navigated before one could declare oneself a candidate for the national convention. I would not have even known who to ask for that paperwork. We elected 2 young people, which thrills me to no end! A number of people running were middle aged elected people touting "35 years of experience" and dropping names left and right. I'm sure those folks have their place in this process, but to me a delegate represents their ward, district, and state and the vast majority of us are NEVER elected to anything and don't have names to drop. A young Wash U student who reminded me of a shorter, perkier version of Jeff Smith (imagine such a thing!!) who waged a serious campaign was our male delegate and an alderwoman who was elected at the ripe old age of 26 (and who now can't be a day over 28) was our female delegate. Our alternates came from Jefferson County. The voting bloc from JeffCo was unstoppable.

Next up is the State Democratic Convention, and all elected delegates (read: me) are eligible to attend and either run for a MO national delegate position, vote on who will be the national delegates, or both.
I wanted all my options open, so I called a number of people this time to see what paperwork I might need in order to keep myself eligible for whatever I chose to do. I was told my paperwork was in.

So this week is the convention! May 10, and I have been deluged with letters of requests for my support. Most of them are men, all white, and again most are elected to various offices. A handful have been regular, unelected Joes and I do believe two regular Janes are among the paper pushers. I've gotten two calls and one e-mail, one personally written poem, and a number of photos of people who want my vote. Only one is a person of color, and I am certain we have to elect a percentage of minority delegates that is consistent with the racial makeup of MO. We also have a choose at least 1 gay delegate, perhaps two. This might be tricky given that no one has an official Gay ID card, but I have gotten a letter from one guy claiming to be gay and running for delegate. I think I'll have to take his word for it. Of course my vote is already leaning towards him, based purely on his coming out to a bunch of strangers in the first line of a mass-mailed letter. Kudos, buddy. I don't remember his name. Hopefully he'll look like the gay guy at the convention. So kidding.

I may run. I may not. If I feel good about the people representing MO, I will not. I felt well represented by the delegates we elected at the congressional meeting so I have no reason to think we'll be picking all elected white middle aged namedroppers at this next meeting.

I've never been to a Democratic Convention, either- state or national. It will be an experience I think. If I run and win, I'll be headed to Denver in August for the Democratic National Convention and I'll be a delegate for Barack Obama, the presumed candidate for President.

I'm really, really excited about the chance to do that, but also just plain excited about his candidacy. The process has been confusing, but somehow I'm still a tiny part of history. Yes, we can.

Update on wedding biz...

So the beer is ordered. Sort of.
And the wine is purchased. Mostly.
Invitations are on their way to us, ready to be addressed, stamped and mailed by us sometime in the next 3 weeks.
I have clothing! No shoes, but who needs shoes anyway?

Rob will still possibly be naked I guess, as there is nothing on the horizon for him to wear.
We now have 6 people standing up for each of us, and I'm very happy about that.

Food, tables, chairs, tents, tablecloths- check, check, check, check.

I see entire blogs from people detailing their wedding planning. Ours is just about 75 days away and I can't bring myself to write a full post. Ah, well, what can you do?

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Hectic Times

Blogger backslider.

I can't imagine anyone wants to read about wedding planning anyway, and that along with work and trying to get my roof and ceiling fixed interest anyone. Add that to a couple of late night outreaches, a some Obama delegate activity, my full time job offices being under major reconstruction and I've got nothing left.
Oh, and we've had flooding and earthquakes so far this spring too! Excitement all around, we're really just missing tornadoes.

I can't complain, most of the activities are good things. Outreaches mean I get paid, getting paid means getting my ceiling fixed, getting my ceiling fixed means getting the house organized again and feeling a little better about at least ONE part of my world. Wedding planning is a baffling mess to me, and I feel that I'll never know what I have missed ordering/renting/doing until the day comes. I do know that we currently lack beverages for the reception and that is critical.

Other things missing at the moment are invitations and clothing for both Rob and I. I think no one would argue that beverages come first.

So beverages are my plan.

In between construction, work, more work, and calling for estimates.

Must. Get. Beer. Ordered.

Tuesday, April 08, 2008

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Friday, March 07, 2008

And I hope...

"If one candidate's trying to scare you, and the other one's trying to get you to think; if one candidate's appealing to your fears, and the other one's appealing to your hopes; you'd better vote for the person who wants you to think and hope."-Bill Clinton

Monday, February 11, 2008

The anti-bride

Rob and I are going to get hitched.

That decision was made on January 30, 2008.

Its been discussed before, and I'm all for having a big party and am sure I will be with Rob for a very long time, indefinitely even. We've been together for almost 2 and 1/2 years and he can still put up with me, so I'd better hang onto him.

So now we've got to plan this party. I love the idea of the big party, and that's what I want to call it. We say some things to each other in front of tons of our friends and our families, then we have a rockin' outdoor music/food/beverage fiesta!

But its not so simple, and there aren't enough words in our lexicon to replace the conventional terms I'd rather not use. "Wedding" conjurs up the image of strapless dresses, French manicures, romantic soft music, teary-eyed mothers of the bride or groom, a charming blonde-ringleted girl sprinkling flower petals on a long carpet while stained glass church windows filter sunlight down on her flower-crowned head, tall perfectly coiffed white cakes and dance games like who's been married the longest?

I don't want ANY of that. I don't want to be called "bride" or "fiance" or call our party a "wedding". Its not that I'm scared of the commitment part of it, or even being linked for eternity (or at least for the next 50-60 years) to my Robert. No, its the traditional ideas that just turn me off.

The wedding industry is a scam. The money spent on these occasions is appalling. The amount of time and stress that are supposedly the "norm" is just not worth it. For fun, I googled some wedding invitation stuff to see if there are affordable, attractive, simple wedding invitations on recycled paper. Little did I know that I'm supposed to have about 16 pieces of paper PER guest over the course of the planning months. They all have to match. Save the date cards, invitations to the engagement party, actual wedding invitations, RSVP cards, envelopes for everything, thank you notes, labels for returns, labels for addresses, matching stamps, seals, pieces of paper to go BETWEEN each piece of paper, blah, blah, blah. Oh, and that's all about $5-6 per guest. We might be inviting 300 people to our party. Many of our guests are married or committed to other guests, so they'd just get one set of each but still- 300 x $5.50 is over $1600!!!!!

Do you know what I could do with $1600?!

Heck, Rob could own a car that runs for $1600. I could go to Asia for 3 weeks (by myself, sorry Rob we're not legally bound to each other yet).

We could get TWO great new computers. Or one really good computer AND a new state of the art camera. Plus carrying cases for both.

I could redo the electric in my kitchen.

We could donate that amount to HRC's work for marriage equality so that our gay friends who have been together 2-3 times as long as we can have the option of signing the same paperwork that we can and gaining the 1200 rights that we get from our dual signatures and a fee of under $40.

And that is the second reason I have a problem being a "bride" in a "wedding". Because I'm a girl and Rob's a boy, we get to call our party a "wedding". I don't want to, but I have the option. I'm uncomfortable signing a marriage license so the government will recognize our union, when I really don't CARE what the government thinks about my relationship and I sure don't like that they will choose to recognize mine when they won't recognize so many others'.

I'm not happy about it, but I've done my research and been swayed towards being more neutral about that marriage license business for myself. Since its important to Rob- very, very important in fact- and I've gained some understanding from my gay friends and Dan Savage, I'm probably going to sign on the line.

But instead of buying $80 pillows for our charming little ring bearer to carry our platinum, engraved $400 wedding bands down the flower-strewn aisle at our wedding/party, we're going to chuck some money HRC's way. And we'll ask our guests to do the same.

And then we're going to have a party.

Wednesday, February 06, 2008

V-I-C-T-O-R-Y

Well, mostly. Obama won Missouri!! He won more delegates nationwide. He got Connecticut, he PLOWED Hillary in Kansas, and a few other states which were all surprises. Clinton won Cali, but I'd say the day held better news for Obama than Clinton.

There's still a long way to go.

Missouri has not picked a presidential candidate who ultimately did not win in my lifetime.

I have everything crossed, an Obama bumper sticker on my car, and more checks made out to his campaign than to just about anything else.

What else can you do?

Tuesday, February 05, 2008

Super Fat Tuesday

Vote, vote, vote today.

VOTE.

Its your right, its your duty, women have have the vote for less than 100 years only. Use the rights people die to defend.

And if you need any further reason, no Bush is on the ballot.

VOTE.

Monday, February 04, 2008

Super Tuesday

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It was a creed written into the founding documents that declared the destiny of a nation.

Yes we can.

It was whispered by slaves and abolitionists as they blazed a trail toward freedom.

Yes we can.

It was sung by immigrants as they struck out from distant shores and pioneers who pushed westward against an unforgiving wilderness.

Yes we can.

It was the call of workers who organized; women who reached for the ballots; a President who chose the moon as our new frontier; and a King who took us to the mountaintop and pointed the way to the Promised Land.

Yes we can to justice and equality.

Yes we can to opportunity and prosperity.

Yes we can heal this nation.

Yes we can repair this world.

Yes we can.

We know the battle ahead will be long, but always remember that no matter what obstacles stand in our way, nothing can stand in the way of the power of millions of voices calling for change.

We have been told we cannot do this by a chorus of cynics...they will only grow louder and more dissonant ........... We've been asked to pause for a reality check. We've been warned against offering the people of this nation false hope.

But in the unlikely story that is America, there has never been anything false about hope.

Now the hopes of the little girl who goes to a crumbling school in Dillon are the same as the dreams of the boy who learns on the streets of LA; we will remember that there is something happening in America; that we are not as divided as our politics suggests; that we are one people; we are one nation; and together, we will begin the next great chapter in the American story with three words that will ring from coast to coast; from sea to shining sea --

Yes. We. Can.

Tuesday, January 22, 2008

News Day

On cold January days, post holidays and before baseball season, there's not a lot of news.

Today is different. Heath Ledger has died.I'm not attached to celebrities and their lives per say, but this man brought Ennis Del Mar to life and made a gay love story entertaining and tragic and more importantly- mainstream.

In more local news, Matt Blunt, Worst Governor in the US is not seeking a second term. No reason is given for now, none other than he's "already accomplished" what he sent out to do in his first term. But his first term is a disaster, he's already begun a campaign for reelection so this means one thing: Scandal.

I hope its a raucous sex tape, maybe some porn. This man is a born again, holier-than-thou nutcase so while I sincerely hope he is not ill or experiencing a family tragedy, I'm thrilled at the prospect of him being shamed and run from office. He's balanced our state budget on the backs of disabled children and poor families, so its his turn to feel a little pain.

January 2009 was already promising to be joyous with the inauguration of some president not named Bush and now, almost as thrilling- inauguration of of a MO governor not named Blunt.

RIP Heath Ledger. Happy retirement and please go away, Matt Blunt.

Friday, December 14, 2007

Thanks for the memories

Jimmy Baseball. Hollywood. Jimmy Ballgame. Thanks for The Catch in 2004, the walkoff in 2005, for taking charge in 2006 so we lived your dream and you got your ring.


Thanks for treating St. Louis like home, for stepping to the plate to Nellie, for hanging out at Blues games, and for your respect for the baseball history here.

Thanks for the field in Forest Park Southeast, for texting the Grind even when you should have kept it to yourself, and thanks for the halfshirts.



Thanks for the memories.

Thursday, December 13, 2007

Mitchell Report

The nannystate steroid list will be released in a little over an hour. Sixty to 80 former and current baseball players will be named as steroid users past or present. They make enough money for me to not feel sorry for them, but I do hope some of our old favorites and currrent "good guys" are not on the list. I truly do not want to see Albert Pujols, Derek Jeter, Jim Edmonds, or Chris Carpenter named.
Whose name would make me cheery? Curt Schilling. That loudmouth could be silenced in the next hour. That would be nice. Also, I would not mind JD Drew. Roger Clemens with his annual its-May-and-I'm-going-to-announce-coming-out-of-retirement-again speech is really old, so it would be fine with me if he's on it. I suspect Nomar will be there. We already know some of the names- Troy Glaus, Canseco, Sammy Sosa, Palmeiro, McGwire, Bonds, Rick Ankiel, and Giambi. Sixty to 80 is many more, but still a tiny percentage of all the players who currently or in the past played MLB. Some of them I am certain will not be named- Ozzie Smith, David Eckstein, Joe McEwing.

Who will be named?

I wait with baited breath!!

Monday, December 10, 2007



Q: Who do you favor for President in the United States?

A: “I cannot believe that it possible a woman can become Premier of US and A - in Kazakhstan, we say that to give a woman power, is like to give a monkey a gun - very dangerous. We do not give monkeys guns any more in Kazakhstan ever since the Astana Zoo massacre of 2003 when Torkin the orang-utan shoot 17 schoolchildrens. I personal would like the basketball player, Barak Obamas to be Premier.

Like Borat Sagdiyev, I've pretty much thrown my support behind Barack Obama. I did that before Oprah, so its not just because he's trendy. Truth be told, Dennis Kucinich is the only candidate that I feel most represents my beliefs, but Obama can actually win. That makes me sound cynical and perhaps like a sellout, but its self-preservation too. Its hard to keep getting excited about candidates and then watch them crumble and choke and fall apart and lose. Nader, Gore, Dean, Kucinich- all were once supported by this voter. Now I'm with Obama, there's no way I can go 0-for-5. Right?!


Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Dark Arch


The Arch has been dark this week in the evenings, and I could not remember why exactly, but knew that it had something to do with a migration of some creature. It turns out to be birds!

FYI from the Head Arch Dude:

Thank you for interest on lighting the Gateway Arch at night.

We are open to the public from 8am to 10 pm during the period of Memorial
Day through Labor Day. If the lights are turned on any earlier than 10 pm,
it would shine directly into the eyes of visitors at the top of the Arch
making it impossible to see or look out from the Arch observation deck.

As you may know, low clouds that hide the night sky that birds use to
navigate by, combined with artificial light, result in a halo effect that
can cause birds to fatally fly into artificially lit structures.
Therefore, for two weeks in the spring and again for two weeks in the fall,
the Arch is not lit due to spring and fall bird migrations.

Also, times of low cloud cover, during rain, or snow storms has effect on
the aesthetics of the lighting causing the 44 light beams themselves
becoming the focal point as opposed to the object beging lit. Hence, you
have 44 beams illuminating nothing which is an obvious distraction from the
Arch itself. To avoid illuminating nothing, a ceilometer automatically
shuts the lights off when such events occur, and conversely, turns them on
again when the situation changes. Otherwise, here is the Gateway Arch
Exterior Lighting schedule:

Oct through March 6pm - 12midnight
April through May 7pm - 12 midnight

May (beginning Memorial Day weekend) through September 10pm - 1am
September (beginning the day after labor Day) 6pm -
12midnight

And, if that is not sufficiently complicated, keep in mind that we permit
after hours events to be held during the evenings between Labor Day and
Memorial Day. Should a permitee request that the tram ride to the top of
the Arch be available, we cannot turn on the exterior lights until their
event has concluded which sometimes can be as late as midnight.

We do hope this sheds some light on the Arch and as always we appreciate
your interest.

Sincerely,

/s/Franklin D. Mares
Deputy Superintendent

Eating Disorder


I've become obsessed with food. Its not dangerous, not the type where I eat excessively, stop eating, or force my food back up after consumption. No, this is another kind of disorder. Its more of an I'm-not-single-anymore eating disorder. With a little we're-a-one-income-couple-who-enjoy-good-food axis II clarification. I am officially not single. After 1 year and 11.5 months of learning all about and falling in love with Robert, and after 4 months+ of living together, I'm really and truly not a single person anymore. I'm past the Fear of Commitment. I'm past the fear in general. Its all good now. Some things, though, are not part of the romatic, lovely picture of what life is like when you meat That Person. Most things are brilliantly working out, compromise is easy and fun and I'm so glad he's moved in. We get along despite all of my energetic bursts of conversation topic after midnight and his inability to sleep past 7am.
So its fortunate that our "issues" are minor ones. The one I'm thinking of at this posting is food. When I was single, I didn't think about food much. I love food- healthy, colorful, non-processed food. I don't need much food to fill me up. I'm very lucky in that regard, and also that I enjoy a wide palate of spiciness and ethnicities in my food. Leftover Indian can last me a week. If I didn't have a full "meal" by most people's standards in my bachelor pad, I could make a peanut butter sandwich, eat a couple of tortilla chips with a few slices of Mexican cheese, have half a bowl of frozen peas, a handful of blueberries and I was full. Broccoli and spinach could be a full meal, not just side dishes. I was not a great cook, but it was enough for me.
Then I met Rob, and learned what GOOD cooking was. Rob loves gourmet food. He can cook it and eat it like a pro. His tastes are diverse and can be expensive. Rob loves meat and fish and things that I've never bought in my life. He's also writing his dissertation which, if you've never tackled that joy before, entails sitting at a computer for 8-12 hours per day 7 days a week. Rob has recently decided that this lifestyle is not consistent with his love for all things rich and filling and has decided to lose weight.
So this brings me to my eating disorder. We have consciously been eating healthfully for 1 month. We are also intending to travel to Asia in early 2008, so we are working on saving funds for the big vacation.

to be continued...

Sunday, September 09, 2007

Gardening at Night

As I work on my 97 year old house, I usually document projects with "before and after" photos. One of my biggest projects this year has been my garden, and I have to admit that the "after" photos on that project are far more interesting and attractive than my newly installed pantry shelving system or the freshly sealed and repaired crack in my top step.













This year, I hauled in over 2500 lbs of dirt, skimmed the top layer of soil off and filled my raised bed garden with new, clean fill dirt and a small amount of store-bought manure and planted basil, rosemary, thyme, and sage that I'd grown from seed. I added some red-a-million tomatoes from Home Depot, a few basil plants (because I was impatient!) , tarragon, and purple sage from Soulard Market, and a butternut squash, 3 jalepeno plants, 2 eggplant plants, and a few striped zebra tomato plants from Steph and Bob. I also got some mint, chocolate plain, and planted them in a back corner of my yard as I knew in my last house, some mint plants had taken over the existing garden. Alas, my plain mint died and the chocolate mint, while thriving, has not proliferated like the mint at my old place.
The progress was slow at first, but then the basil took off. The photo below is all basil, one lemon and the rest standard basil. It was taken after a storm a few weeks ago so there was some separation the branches and some "settling" but they are truly still basil bushes.In the last month, Rob and I have really started to reap the rewards of this mess o' green! We've made lots and lots of pesto (with more to come. Pesto, anyone?), had lots of tiny little red tomatoes while still waiting for the green zebras to grow, eaten one giant butternut squash with sage for seasoning, and just yesterday we picked this beautiful eggplant for this coming week's menu. Here it is in its natural habitat, and then about a week later with Rob to give size perspective.

















The squash was wonderful, and its really a rewarding feeling to have a meal that is comprised by half or more of things that I grew myself. I'm learning as I go, this is the largest garden I've ever had but another of my undertakings will certainly help my gardening efforts next year. That project is my compost pile!! Yep, that's it on the left, and it is one of the very first things I built after I moved in one year ago. It should have some really quality compost right about now, so my current garden did not benefit from this pile. From what I've heard and read, one year is prime time for compost. So next year, when I (hopefully) expand my garden, it will be rich with composted nutrients. Most of what I know about gardening, I learned from Pat and Bea, our dear family friends who had more of a hand in raising us than anyone besides our parents. Bea and Pat always had the most incredible garden. The vegetable and fruit garden filled both sides of their big yard, and the back of the yard was a flower garden with a bird bath. On the left were neat rows of peppers, tomatoes, eggplant, carrots, onions, a bunch of other things that I've not forgotten, and asparagus. On the right were strawberry plants, lettuce, spinach, mint, and a variety of other herbs that must have grown well in the shade of Mr. G's giant oak tree. The garden always seemed to be perfectly symmetrically planted, weed-free, and carefully watered. I loved that yard, we spent hours out there in the summer caring for the plants and drinking water with lemon juice just like Bea liked it. Pat had potted plants ALL over the inside and outside of their house too, and as she became too sick with cancer in the last year, she gave me lots of her plants. Many of them needed replanting, a sign of just how sick Pat was because in years past she meticulously cared for her greenery, repotting as needed. Even the last time I saw Pat, as she was directing me to take more plants from her bed where she was confined, there were still a few that she was hanging onto. I'm sure Pat was attached to a few of them, or at least to the idea that no one could care for her plants the way that she can. She's right. I haven't killed one yet, but I've had some close calls with the potted plants. Here is one that has thrived and probably already needs to be repotted.
I don't know how she kept up with everything, but I'll always attribute my gardening interests and skills to Pat, who died on August 12. Bea, at 20+ years older and nearing 90, was always healthy as a horse until a week before Pat's death when she broke her hip and now this week she has gotten word that she, too, is filled with cancer. A big part of my childhood is slippping away, but I get to carry some of them with me. My garden and my dog are both loves heavily influenced by Pat and Bea, as they shared their lovely garden and beloved mutt Buffy with my siblings and I.
As I look around my yard, I see my spider wort and catnip growing around my birdbath and then my humble vegetable garden, and I know that Bea and Pat will always be with me. Every time I smell a tomato plant, give my pup a bath in the backyard, or sip water with lemon juice, there they are.